Gossiping as a habit

+ Who makes money on gossip by the way


  • How do we consent to gossip on a mass scale?
  • How do we distort reality about gossip in our minds?
  • Does the gossip rule our life?
  • Is the gossip like a drug?
  • What is the need for the gossip in everyday life?

Have you noticed that when we talk about other people, usually we don’t call it gossip? We’re rather convinced that we convey or hear important, necessary or interesting information.

How do we mass consent for gossip?

Gossiping is a common social practice. It is so rooted in our culture that it’ll always exist. As a social strategy, it helps us to control and regulate relationships with other people. For this reason, gossiping is very popular and widely used.

In our own circles, we give ourselves quiet consent. On a daily basis, we don’t think too deeply why we gossip. We rarely think of our attitude toward it, as well as the possible consequences.

How do we distort gossip reality?

The truth is we gossip in everyday situations when we meet people at home, at work, at school. Gossiping has become a habit, although few people perceive it that way. People are quick to deny it. No one likes to be called a gossip.

We have to admit that sometimes we aren’t even aware of how we manage our daily conversations. We talk for talking. Our speech is often automatic. Perhaps that is why it’s so hard to realize that gossiping is a habit.

I’m sure you’ve noticed that in our gossip there is a certain amount of sensation or mystery. They add a little excitement and sense of validity to the information being conveyed. Thanks to these inseparable gossip features, we think that what we say or hear is not gossip but important, needed and interesting news. This is how we justify the act of gossiping in front of ourselves.

Normally we disapprove gossips, don’t we? If so, we do what we usually have so much aversion to, and we convince ourselves that we do something else. In other words, we gossip and we think we don’t. How this can be? We brainwash ourselves and we’re not aware of it. How do our minds work that we can’t see the truth?

Who makes money on gossip by the way?

Our demand for gossip is huge. Have you noticed that mass media earn millions dealing this stuff? So-called important news in various portals, programs and magazines are there as products to make money. We consume it like food and we crave it. Somehow the life of well-known or complete strangers makes us curious and absorbed so much that we’re ready to devote our precious time.

Gossip has become a marketing and manipulation tool. Well-constructed and assembled into the media world allows to direct our attention and control our minds on a massive scale. It’s difficult to protect yourself from it.

How does gossip rule our lives?

Gossip sometimes can have a beneficial effect on societies. It can protect small or large communities from unreliable individuals. However the reality I’m observing far exceeds gossip’s protective function.

At this point, I’m going to be a bit drastic. In my opinion, for many of us, gossip is like a legal drug and not much different from the classic ones. There are legal (global and local) dealers and those who legally take.

Global gossip is available in mass media. It keeps the audience in an illusionary sense of being informed. In fact, it arouses fear and controls human minds.

Local gossip is available in workplaces, in the courtyards, in the queue, at the bus stops, at homes. It artificially supports relationships. In fact, it keeps people in a psychological distance and distrust. It blocks simple kindness and ability to communicate without harm. It can keep some people in mutual resentment for years.

For many of us, gossip is like a legal drug and not much different from the classic ones. There are legal (global and local) dealers and those who legally take.

Time to wake up

Regardless of the scale of the phenomenon, if we’re unwittingly entangled in the vicious circle of gossip, we’re responsible for taking away our own peace of mind.

The unconscious habit of gossiping creates more confusion than the order in our lives. Instead of protecting us it brings more unnecessary chaos, stress and tension. Who needs that?

If we want to protect our peace of mind, then it’s time to wake up and be intentional about the words which come out of our mouths. Moreover, it’s time to be conscious of what we hear from others here and there.

Very Inner Question (VIQ)

I wonder what are your observations and experiences

How does gossip affect your life?

Please comment below.

See all posts in the series

  • 4 masks of gossip
  • Are you a gossip?
  • Gossiping as a habit
  • To gossip or not to gossip- You decide
  • What's hidden under 4 masks of gossip?
  • 6 shields against gossip
  • How to shift the habit of gossiping?
  • Inner Adventure! 21 days without gossiping

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